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Evil and Forgiveness
I’m not even gonna go off on how a mother delivers a baby in a neighbor’s bathtub, wraps it in a plastic bag, stufffs it in a closet, and then stays in the same house with her baby’s dead body for a month. Nope, not even going there. I can’t. It’s too evil. I can’t wrap my mind around it and I don’t want to.
I can’t imagine a life which would lead someone to that point. Can’t imagine it, and I don’t want to. I’m not going to question her parents and why they didn’t look a little further, ask more questions, pay attention. I am not going to judge. Not this time.
What that mother did was horrific, it was evil and she needs to pay the price for it. Is that judging? Or just stating the facts? Her baby is dead. She killed it. That’s pretty clear. What led her to such a point is what I’m curious about.
Did she have bad parents? How bad would a parent have to be to have a daughter who would kill her baby like that? Were they good parents who did everything they could to raise their daughter in a loving way and their daughter ultimately chose to do evil? Did they not look a little further because they couldn’t wrap their minds around it either? What kind of nightmare did those parents face when they discovered their grandchild wrapped in a plastic bag, dead in their home for two months? What kind of nightmare are they living now knowing their daughter will likely spend a long time in prison?
More important, at least to me, is how do you keep yourself from judging and how do you start on the path to forgiveness? How do you forgive a mother who kills her baby? How do you forgive your daughter for killing your grandchild? How do you forgive yourself for having a child who would commit such an act of evil?
I can’t begin to imagine, I hope I never have to, but I hope there is a way. Forgiveness is hard. Not judging is hard. Loving your kids can be hard, and sometimes loving them all you can, as much as you can, is all you can do.
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By Zarah
May 9, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this
I agree this woman is sick and I feel bad for her parents, but what really gets to me and who my heart truly goes out to is the living child this monster has. What is her life going to be like knowing her mother killed her brother?
By Richie Ann
May 9, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this
I think clearly this mom was not mentally sound. I think women sometimes feel trapped by their own bodies and it causes them to do completely irrational things. I don’t think that her parents understood the situation clearly and I do hope that at the very least they forgive themselves of the guilt they probably are carrying. I hope they can forgive for the sake of the rest of their family, for their living granddaughter, and for each other. I think these kinds of situations happen to even the most loved children and we should be compassionate to all those involved.
By Marlys
May 9, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this
It breaks my heart because this is tragic on so many levels. I often wonder if we really need to be aware of every horrible thing that goes on in this world? These things have been happening for ages. It’s horrible but sadly, it’s not new. What is the balance between being informed and overwhelmed by this?
By Robin
May 9, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this
Marlys, this story started out as a report of a dead baby, then it unfolded into the unfathomable story of this young women doing the unthinkable. We are still a relatively small town and despite the fact that this kind of thing has happened since the dawn of man, it has still rocked our community. I believe knowing the truth is better than pretending. Maybe next time, those involved on the periphery will take more aggressive action to prevent there ever being a next time.