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Road Trip Bucket List

By Randee Bergen
Monday, March 24, 2014

For the first time ever, Spring Break is two weeks long and it couldn’t have come at a better time. Come August, my oldest, Addy, is off to college and my youngest, Amy, will be leaving for her year abroad in France. To take advantage of this first, and perhaps last, two weeks that the three of us have off together, we have planned Addy’s Epic Senior Year Road Trip -12 days through Utah, Arizona, out to the Pacific, up to the Sequoias, Death Valley, Vegas, and Bryce Canyon in Utah.


I spent six entire days planning this 12-day road trip. I did the majority of the work back in December when I had some time off work – pouring over maps, googling and reading about possible cool places that we absolutely had to see, determining which campgrounds along our route would be open in March and whether it’d be warm enough to sleep in the tent at which elevations.


A couple of nights ago, Addy said to me, “Mom, I’m writing a bucket list for our trip.”


“Well, don’t get too carried away,” I said, thinking of the typical bucket list, a list of places to see and experience, “because the trip is pretty much planned out.”


“Oh, mom,” she replied, waving her hand in front of my face, behind which sits my concrete, sequential, very much inside-the-box type of brain. “I’m not talking about that kind of bucket list.”


The next day, while I was at work and she was at school, trying desperately to stick it out and finish her classes so that she can graduate, she texted me this.

SENIOR TRIP BUCKET LIST

1. fall in love with (at least) something: person, place, sunset, food
2. be completely present
3. try something new/out of the comfort zone every day
4. do nice things with/for my family
5. be patient with my family
6. LAUGH - all the time and make others laugh
7. be a kid
8. conversate with strangers
9. photograph Amy
10. photograph my mom
11. photograph everything
12. write
13. get lost

As always, I was blown away with her nonconventional way of thinking. I’m sure she had written it during class and that she wasn’t paying attention and that she wasn’t concerned with her grades, which she needed to be. But at this moment it didn’t matter. At this moment she was sharing something so beautiful, something that made me choke up and have to hold back the tears threatening to spill from my lower lids.


At the end of my work day, Friday, the last day of teaching before a two-week long respite from schedules and planning and worrying about whether I could get all of my students proficient in all subjects before the end of the school year, I grabbed my phone (with the texted bucket list) and went to look for my BFF colleagues, the ones I would share something like this with, the ones who know my daughter, know what she’s been through and about her ups and down her senior year, the ones who understand what a free spirit she is and would appreciate what she had written.


Together we stood there, in my classroom, on a Friday after school, the Friday before Spring Break, while I read her bucket list aloud. And together we cried.


We cried for everything the each of us has been through, all the trials and tribulations our children and families have had, what we know to be true and important, the bare basics of what we hope for for our children, that they learn to love and appreciate the people and moments in their lives.


I had errands to run after school, things I needed to get before we left on our trip. But I stopped at home first, to find Addy and tell her what a beautiful soul she was, inside and out.


“Mom, why are you saying this?” She looked at me, dumbfounded.


“Your bucket list, Addy. It was incredible. It made me cry. I shared it with my teacher friends and we were all standing around bawling.”


“Bucket list? Oh. Yeah.”


I didn’t sense that she had forgotten about it, necessarily, just that it was ordinary to her, nothing special. Just her typical thinking. And it was.


I reviewed each item, separately, and thought about them. Yep, yep, yep, each one was something that I do, almost daily. Maybe they weren’t so extraordinary. But they did need to be written down. To be shared. And to be consciously thought about – not only on our trip, but every day, always.


Thank you, Addy.
 

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Worded Wednesday from Winnie the Pooh

By Robin Dearing
Wednesday, March 19, 2014

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How not to be a baseball coach

By Richie Ann Ashcraft
Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Somebody texted me last night at 10:30 p.m. What? A.) There's a cutoff for texting people.

B.) It said Soren was assigned to a spring baseball team, but wha-wah, there's no coach. Again. There's a "what are we going to do about it" meeting tomorrow.

So, a coworker and I started plotting ways for me to avoid being roped in to some kind of insanely ridiculous coaching position again.

Here's the list:

1. I'm just going to be late.

2. I'm going to wear insanely high high heels.

3. Put my hair in rollers and do my make-up like Mimi.

4. Ask how the boys can score 'goals.'

5, Don't speak, AT ALL.

6. Holler out to Soren, "Hey Soren, can you go get mama her cigarettes from out of the truck?"

7. Just say no.

8. Tell the parents you have the yips. Be vague about what the symptoms are.

9. Bribe them with team snacks.

10. Show up drunk.

 

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St. Patrick’s Day Rainbow Cookies

By Richie Ann Ashcraft
Monday, March 17, 2014

Saturday I decided to make some cookies for St. Patrick's Day.

I chose some pretty rainbow refridgerator cookies and used THIS RECIPE from Flour on her Nose.

I was hungry and decided we needed a lot of cookies so I doubled the recipe.

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Rainbow Refrigerator Cookies: Makes 4 dozen
2.5 cups of flour
1/2 tsp baking powder
16 tablespoons of room temperature butter (2 sticks)
1 cup of sugar
1 tbsp of any extract or flavoring (vanilla, lemon, mint, whatever!)
1 egg
pinch of salt.

Cream together the butter and sugar. When that's light and fluffy, add in the egg, and the extract/flavoring.

Add in the rest of the ingredients, and mix until the dough comes together.

Divide the dough into 7 parts, but not equally! To make sure the layers of the rainbow are the same thickness, the portions have to get progressively larger (from purple to red)

Color the smallest portion purple, and so on, and the largest red.
Cover and chill the doughs in the fridge for an hour. (or in the freezer for 15 minutes if you're a lazy bum like me)

Roll the purple dough into a snake, about 1 1/2 feet long. (for cookies the size of mine, about 1 1/2 inches across. If you want bigger ones, make the snake shorter and thicker)
Roll out each color, in order to fit perfectly over the color before it, and trim any excess before adding the next color.

Preheat your oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit.

Return the log to the fridge and chill until stiff enough to easily slice. (or the freezer again ;] )

Slice the log into 1/4 inch pieces, and places on a lined baking sheet.
Bake the cookies for 15 minutes, and let cool completely on a rack.

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It's been my experience that choosing recipes randomly off the Internet is pretty hit or miss. But this recipe is definately one to keep around because the dough itself is spectacular. I had to work the food coloring into the dough pretty hard and nonetheless the cookies were still light and delish. It's a basic dough that could be changed a manipulated a thousand different ways, all with great results. It's my new favorite obviously.

I cut the dough into seven uneven parts, then added the color. One suggestion though, do the yellow and lighter colors first. I did the blue/greens first and then I had some trouble getting it off my hands so it wouldn't taint my lighter colors.

I also layered all the colors into a log then sliced and baked the cookies.

I couldn't figure out how to make a cookie with a nice edge that wouldn't spread while baking. So, instead, I cut my cookies in half after they had cooled a bit to get the rainbow. Added bonus, I ended up with a lot of cookies. Enough to eat, to save for the preschool class, and to hide and freeze for later.

Happy St. Patty's Day everybody. Hope your day is full of rainbows. (or some kind of similiar cliche'. ) 

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Bitter

By Robin Dearing
Friday, March 14, 2014

Pain makes me bitter. I'm very bitter today.

Since becoming ill last year, I've been suffering chronic pain in my hips and knees. It tends to be worse when it's cold, when I'm very active or when I'm there's not enough steriod in my system. It's the kind of dull aching pain that begs for anti-inflammatories, like ibuprophen — the kind of anti-inflammatories that I can no longer take due to the GI troubles created from my life-sustaining oral steroids. 

I met with my primary-care doctor who determined that anatomically, my joints are sound. I do have some arthritis in my left hip and some kind of thing with my right knee, but nothing seriously wrong. That's good news. The bad news is they tend to hurt for some reason undetermined by my doctor. Since the pain started when I got sick, I am blaming Addison's disease. It's such a jerk disease, it should get all the blame.  

In hopes of building up the muscles associated with these joints and alleviating my pain, I started physical therapy several weeks ago. The physical therapist checked over my joints and came to the same conclusion as my doctor. There's not much wrong with them anatomically. He did some research on Addison's and joint pain, finding a single article from the 1970s which summarized a paper written in the 1940s. It was of no help in that it just suggested that people with Addison's disease may suffer inflammation of the joints.

I now have an extensive routine of exercises that use a giant, yellow, rubber band, an exercise ball and 5 lb. weights. The first couple of weeks, the exercises created caused more pain, then less pain. I was starting to think maybe the physical therapy was working. Last week I was sick and taking extra steriod to combat my cold. The pain went away entirely. It was awesome. This week, I'm back on my regular dose of meds and the pain is markedly worse. 

Why not take more steriods? Last week, when I bumped up my steriods by as little as possible, I gained five pounds in five days. 

So, my choices: I can take more steriod to relieve my pain and gain a pound of fat a day which will likely eventually form into a hump on my back (this is not a joke, look up Cushing's disease) or I can suffer joint pain that I can't treat with anti-inflammatories. I do have some pain pills that I take when the pain keeps me awake at night. I can take those and sleep my days away, but the thought of spending my day in a doped up stupor when I have work to do and a life to live, is beyond depressing.

I'm so on the verge of shaking my fist and shouting my hatred for this disease, but this disease is part of me. Hating it, is hating myself. Learning to not hate myself is something that I've been trying to overcome since middle school. So today will be a suck-it-up day with that hopes that tomorrow will be a better day.

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Friendship in France

By Randee Bergen
Friday, March 14, 2014

We Americans! We’re a bunch of insincere and pompous phonies. Liars, even!

Or so the French seem to think. Our tendency to strike up a conversation with just about anyone, and go on and on past the small talk and into deep ideas and details about ourselves, is incomprehensible to the French.

I've been reading Au Contraire! Figuring Out the French (because my daughter is spending her junior year abroad in France) and the nature of friendship–and how it differs there from here in the U.S.–is so far the most interesting and easy-to-illustrate aspect of French culture.

I have found myself in several situations over the past few months doing just that–explaining how friendship in France works–and with complete strangers to boot. First it was a man at a wedding reception, someone I didn’t know, someone who sat down beside me to say hello because he had heard that I was from Grand Junction, a town he had been to a few times and had really liked. An hour later he knew a whole heck of a lot about my town and myself and my daughter going abroad and I was teaching him about French culture. Next it was a lady who was in line near me to get passports. We started talking about where we were going (I’m not really going to France, just want to be prepared in case there is an emergency while my daughter is there) and she made a comment about the French. I thought I better explain to her that much of our perception of the French stems from our differences in how we build relationships. And then there was a parent at parent-teacher conferences, a mom I sat near at my daughter’s swim meet, the man at the…

Well, since I’ve explained it so many times, I’ll share it with you, too. It really is quite fascinating.

Visualize a French person with about five concentric walls built around him. The outer wall will be the highest and each successive wall going in and toward the individual will be shorter. Now visualize an American, also with concentric walls surrounding him. The American’s outer walls are low, but as the walls get closer to the person, they get higher, taller.

Now, imagine that you are trying to develop a deep and lasting friendship with each of these two people. With the French guy, it will be extremely difficult to “get in.” It may take weeks, months, years to scale those outer walls. But, once you’re over that barrier, there will be a mutual agreement to commit to the friendship and it will become easier and easier to get close to the person, to get to know the real him.

Now, the American. I’m sure this will sound familiar. You can approach almost any American and start a conversation. And as long as you’re not creepy or overstepping boundaries or holding a person up from whatever it is he or she was just about to do, most Americans will keep chatting with you. Just like I did with the guy at the wedding reception and the lady in the passport line. Not only did we chat, but I shared a lot about my life, including that my daughter was going to France and oh by the way let me tell you something interesting about the French culture.

The thing about the American’s walls, however, is that even though it’s easy to get in, it’s difficult to continue climbing upward and inward to the real core or the real self of an American. In fact, we Americans may not ever truly know our closest friends and family members. We usually have a lot of mediocre and somewhat superficial friendships.

As I said, once you’re over the outer walls with a French person, you’re in and expected to commit to a truly amazing friendship. With Americans, a friendship might be based on a shared interest, a hobby, or just the fact that two people are coworkers. Once someone loses interest in the hobby, quits a job, or goes his or her separate way in life for whatever reason, the friendship might be over. Not so true with the French.

Another difference in friendships between our two cultures is that Americans are into “doing” whereas French people are into “being.” We like to do things with our friends–go out for coffee, go hiking, take the kids to the park, go to a movie. The French are more inclined to just hang out together. They might talk about what they should do and what it would look like, but no one minds if the group never gets around to doing it. To them, talking about it is fun enough.

Also, Americans don’t like conflict. We tend to not bring up anything that will cause an argument or jeopardize the friendship. The French consider this to be boring and tedious. In France, people like to argue. They look at it as entertainment, as educational, as something that friends can do together. French friends can be direct and frankly critical and it is not at all a problem between them.

I really like that aspect of their culture.

In America, the backbone of the culture is the individual. In France, it’s friendships, groups, the “circle.” In our country we fall in and out of friendships. In France, you are expected to put your heart into a friendship, now and forever. A common expression between friends in America is “I owe you one.” The French language has no equivalent to this. They do not keep score. If you’re not friends, there are no obligations; if you are friends, you’ll do nice things for each other no matter what. And it is baffling to them to hear us say to our new “friends” or to those we were once close to and happen to run into, “Yeah, I’ll give you a call,” or “We should get together sometime and catch up,” when neither party has any real desire or intention of doing so. Liars!

So the French find it weird that we’re so open and chatty with whomever, wherever. To them, that seems arrogant and cocky. Wait, isn’t it the French who are supposed to be arrogant and cocky?

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This one’s going down in my mom book of best things ever

By Robin Dearing
Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Saturday night, I had my most favorite preformance moment ever. That's saying a lot because in the last 10 years, I've had some great times playing music with my band, Riveter. I mean, we opened for the English Beat, the Supersuckers, Bret Michels (really, Bret Michels) and we played South By Southwest in Austin two years in a row.

The funny thing about this performance is that I wasn't playing with my band. I didn't even have a microphone to share my witticisms with the crowd. Nope, I was just the mom standing off to the side with the guitar.

I had the opportunity to play guitar while Margaret sang to a rowdy crowd at our dear friend's barn party. Yes, we live in western Colorado and people throw barn parties and thank goodness for that. Our friend's barn parties consist of really great people playing music, watching music, eating great food and drinking local brewed beer and spirits. It's great fun.

Saturday, my husband played bass with his band. While they were preparing, I thought maybe Margaret could sing a song. Bill agreed that it would be a great venue for her in that it would be a friendly crowd, plus she would have the opportunity to sing outside of the formal choir opportunities.

Unfortunately, this bright idea didn't come until a few days before the party. Good thing Margaret is great at learning new songs. 

We tried to get Mar to sing songs to a recorded backing track, but she claimed that was too uncool and that she wanted live music. She didn't have time to prepare both the vocals and piano or guitar parts, so I volunteered to play guitar for her. She chose to sing Flogging Molly's Drunken Lullabyes. A nice, angry Irish song.

I listened to the song and got the chords off the Internet. We quickly realized it was too low for Mar's voice, so we transposed it to a higher key and began practicing. We had two days.

We played the song over and over. You know what? I was truly impressed. Mar didn't need any cues from me at all. She knew when to come in, when to pause, when to belt the song and when to hold back. She worked on getting the lyrics right and then worked on singing it well. I tried to play the right chords most of the time.

So Saturday comes and it's our turn to take the stage inside the barn. As I was getting my guitar on, Mar puts her hand out and says confidently, "I'll introduce us." I looked at her and said, "OK." But in my mind, I was a little taken a back. I had already planned out what I was going to say. Then I realized that I was just the accompanist. It was Mar's show. She was the star.

When it was time, she quite expertly introduced herself and me and said what song she was singing. Without further ado, I started playing. She came in perfectly. Just like we practiced. 

She sang great and really drew in the crowd. After the first chorus, Mar was rewarded by enthusiastic cheering. Oh the look on her face. It was priceless. It made me want to cry which I started to do, but then remembered I had a job to do. By the end of the song everyone the crowd was singing and shouting along. 

It couldn't have gone better. I was on cloud nine and all did was strum a few chords. Mar was the star. Experiencing that with my girl will always be one of my most favorite moments. 

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Race Director? Yikes!

By Randee Bergen
Tuesday, March 11, 2014

You never know where you’re going to end up in life. Right now, I am headed toward Race Directorship. In a little over a month, I’ll be a Race Director. And that thought frightens me a little.

Last month, I helped the Mesa Monument Striders running club with the timing of two small races here in the valley – the Valentine Massacre 3 Mile Prediction Run and the Lions Club’s Cabin Fever Reliever 5k. I am learning how to do the timing so that I’ll know the procedures and what to watch out for on the day of the race that I’m planning, the Lincoln O.M. ROARing to Run 5k (April 19, 8:30 a.m.).

One thing I noticed as I was working the timing table at the Cabin Fever Reliever is that when participants came to us with questions, the guy in charge would say, “Oh, we’re just the timers. You’ll need to ask the Race Director.” Then, he’d point out the man, the Lion, who was in charge and send that person his way. Some of the questions they asked, ooo la la, I was glad I wasn’t yet a Race Director because I wouldn’t know how to answer them and wouldn’t want to deal with them.

Other than learning how to time races, I’ve been busy running possible routes, securing insurance, checking into permits, creating a website, designing a race t-shirt, choosing who will make our t-shirts, setting registration fees and age groups, selecting awards and accepting donated door prizes, planning race day snacks and race day registration goodie bags, creating and distributing flyers, organizing a running club at the school to get the students fired up about and trained for the race, lining up volunteers, trying to think through every little detail that needs to be in place on race day, and the biggie – rounding up sponsors. Did you know that races make most of their money (ours is going toward technology for our classrooms) from their sponsors and not through race registration fees? That will definitely be the case with our race as we are keeping our fees incredibly low so that our students and families will be able to participate in this event.

It’s been a bit stressful and I know I’ll be sleeping a whole lot better after April 19, but trying to organize a race has also been a good learning journey.

I just have a few more things to figure out before I’ll be comfortable in my Race Director chair.

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The ‘new science’ of Pluto

By Richie Ann Ashcraft
Monday, March 10, 2014

Soren had his first science fair last week.

Sidebar: I didn't even know he was studying the planets. I try to be an engaged parent, and up until then, thought I was. But, when you don't even know that your kid studied Pluto until you get there, well that put me in my place.

Back to the science fair. Pluto.

He told me all about Pluto, the gases, the moons, etc. etc. Then I asked him, "Is it a planet?"

"What? Yeah ..."

"How many planets are there? Eight or nine?"

"I don't know, Mom. Shhhh. Nobody asks that."

So, I went around the room asking all the kids how many planets there are? Soren was horrified by embarrassment. Not a single kid told me how many planets there were.

Because I couldn't let it go, I asked his teacher what they were telling kids these days.

"There are eight confirmed planets," she said, "and one dwarf planet. But, really the book says that nobody really knows."

Huh.

"Pluto can also be called a Plutoid," the book said.

Eight planets and a plutoid. That's what I'm going with.

When I told Soren he looked at me like I had grown two heads. I guess he's right in a way. Does it really matter? Probably not. But still .... we all need to be on the same page here .... for some reason ... at the science fair.

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My hard-working song bird

By Robin Dearing
Friday, March 7, 2014

Thursday morning, we had to get up extra early to attend the Student of the Month breakfast at Margaret's middle school. By the fit that Margaret threw over the prospect of losing 30 minutes of sleep, you'da thunk we were taking her to the gulag. She had all kinds of reasons why she didn't want to go, but I put my mom-foot down and told her if she didn't come to the breakfast, I was going to be mighty pissed at her. Luckily for us, that did it. She finally relented and agreed to get up early and go to the breakfast before school

And I'm so glad she did.

Look at the look on Little Sugar's face while Mr. Betts is sharing her recent accomplishments. Margaret loves her choir teacher and has grown so much in her three years of singing in his choirs. 

This year has been quite an exceptional year for her. First, Margaret was selected to be part of the School District's Honor Choir. In addition, she was selected to be part of the first Colorado All-State Middle Choir. She was one of six selected from our district. 

She performed with the District Honor Choir and then the next week, we drove her over to Denver in the middle of winter so she could sing with 300 other middle school girls for the all-state choir. It was a great experience for Margaret. She had to work on and memorize seven songs for each choir. I don't know how she does it, but learning songs is practically second nature to her.

In Denver, the choir spent hours and hours over a day and a half singing and practicing. They sounded amazing and I'm not just saying that because I'm the mom of one of the kids. I was blown away by the quality of music those girls performed. She couldn't have participated had Mr. Betts not also made the trip, at his own expense. 

Once we were back in Grand Junction, Margaret began work on her songs for the School District's Solo/Ensemble Festival. She prepared a solo song and a duet with a friend and classmate. Here is video of her singing her solo:

She earned Superiors on both songs which is the highest scores. She got great feedback from both of the judges and she walked out of the festival feeling pretty good about herself. 

Mar is definitely gaining confidence in herself as a singer which is so wonderful to see. This week, she lugged my acoustic guitar and several sheets of paper up to our bedroom where she gave us a preview of a song that she had written herself.

She always comments on the fact that I always get teary eyed whenever she sings ... honestly, I get teary eyed when I write about her singing, too. I'm so dang proud of her. Seeing my girl take an interest in something and work and suceed ... well, it's makes all the other hard parts of parenting seem not to matter so much.

I think that's really the key with Margaret and her singing. She is not blessed with perfect pitch or a naturally beautiful voice. She has to work at it ... a lot. Every song starts out rough, but she plucks away, working on each part, getting each note. The end result is incredible beauty to this mother's ears. It's that kind of hard work that will pay off for her, not just in music, but in anything she puts her mind to. It eases my mind knowing she has that in her. Knowing my kid can and will suceed at whatever she wants to makes all of our trials so much easier to manage.

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