Examine the ‘stones’ in your life’s path
My parents visited recently to watch their grandkids participate in a variety of activities. From the second they got here until the time they left, we were on the run.
On the day they arrived, we went to one of the boy’s track meets, which was followed by his twin brother’s baseball game. The following day we watched all three boys play in a band competition. The grandparents were duly impressed with their grandsons.
Watching grandkids grow up is a wonderful and important part of being a grandparent. As my oldest, James, looked into the audience as his band warmed up, he saw me and his grandparents smiling at him. It seemed important to him that we were there.
During their visit, my parents also demonstrated another important aspect of being grandparents: sharing experience, love and wisdom.
As I heard their wise words, I realized that it’s not just teenagers who can benefit from these conversations. It’s something we all can learn from.
One conversation in particular comes to mind. It was between my dad and my son, James. Just before the school bus arrived, my dad sat next to James, putting his arm around his shoulders.
I saw but could not hear their conversation, but my dad later told me about it. He said that he had recognized that James had faced some tough situations in his young teenage life, including the death of his father, my ex-husband.
My dad also experienced the death of his father at the age of 8. By acknowledging the loss, my dad opened the lines of communication. He went on to explain that even though tough things happen, it’s how you react that matters the most.
Here’s how I imagine the conversation:
Grandpa: James, several tough things have happened in your life. In fact, you have faced more traumatic events than some people experience in their entire lives. The hard thing to remember is that each of these experiences, including the “good” ones, are like stones on a path. This path is your life. Does that make sense?
James nods, listening intently.
Grandpa: One particular “stone” may be difficult. You may feel sad, regretful, angry and upset. What you don’t know at the time, is how this “stone” fits into your life path. Perhaps this situation happened to help you learn something about yourself or give you experience that will benefit you or others later on. It’s tough to know how or why, but the important thing is to recognize your reactions make all of the difference in the world.
Grandpa then provided some examples of family members who have survived difficult situations and are stronger because of them.
Even though I couldn’t hear the conversation, I could feel the love between them and the respect James has for his Grandpa.
James then realized it was time to catch the bus.
These precious moments of connection were over, but a seed was planted. Who knows when or how the seed will sprout, but I know that it’s just beneath the surface, ready to be nurtured.
Coaching challenge: Looking back, can you recognize “stones” along your path?
With the eyes of experience, how can you connect these “stones” and see how they have created your path? More importantly, how can this perspective help you face “stones” in the future?
Sheri Fisher is an intuitive life coach living in Grand Junction. The situations and characters in her column are fictional to maintain client confidentiality. For information and to access her blog, go to: http://www.coachwithsheri.com.