Sometimes finding balance is a matter of perspective
This was my first coaching appointment with Margie, whom I had met in yoga practice.
She had approached me after class with questions about life coaching.
Margie filled out the Wheel of Life exercise from my Web site, which is a quick way to visually see what areas of life may be out of balance.
From the exercise, I could easily see what was out of balance: her physical environment.
“Tell me what’s going on with your physical environment,” I said.
“There are a couple of home maintenance projects that may need to be done soon, but I’m not sure I’m going to stay in the house. With economy the way it is, however, it may not be the best time to move. So I keep NOT deciding, and I stay in the house.”
“What’s pressing you now to make a decision?” I asked.
“My friend, who is a Realtor, says the market is at the perfect point to buy a house. Prices have dropped, and because of the price range that my house is in, she thinks it would sell quickly,” Margie said. “But I also like where I live ... and so I’m stuck.”
“Can you do a headstand?” I asked out of the blue.
Margie gave me a look that asked, “what does that have to do with anything?”
I responded by saying, “I know an exercise that might help you to gain clarity on your decision.”
“Do I need to be able to do a headstand?” she asked.
“No, but if you have a reference of what it feels like to be upside-down, it might help. If you’d like to go into a headstand, I’m all for that,” I said. “It sounds like if you could make a decision about moving, then you’d have more information about doing the maintenance on your house, right?”
“Let’s take a look at your decision to move from different perspectives,” I suggested. “Imagining you’re in a headstand, what does this decision look like from an upside-down perspective?”
“An upside-down view reminds me that moving can make me feel like my whole world is turned upside-down. I don’t like that much chaos,” Margie said.
We talked more about what upside-down meant to her, helping her step into that perspective.
Margie explored various perspectives as I asked questions such as:
What would your mother/father/brother do and/or what advice would he or she give you?
How would a 5-year-old see this situation?
What would your dog do in this situation?
What will this look like a year in the future?
What would it look like to jump in with both feet?
By exploring these perspectives, Margie was able to see her decision from a variety of viewpoints. We then talked about which one held the most energy for her. Margie decided she should move.
Her action steps focused on what she needed to do to get her house on the market.
She said her action steps and the accountability would help her to keep from getting stuck.
Coaching challenge: When stuck in indecision, seek other perspectives. Answer the questions above or make up ones that are relevant and eye-opening for you.
Sometimes our inability to make a decision is because we are working with the same set of facts.
By varying your perspective, you may discover new facts and add new dimensions to your decision-making process.
Sheri Fisher is an intuitive life coach living in Grand Junction. The situations and characters in her column are fictional to maintain client confidentiality. For more information, go to: http://www.coachwithsheri.com.