Wheel of Life exercise can get you on road to better life
“I did the Wheel of Life exercise from your Web site,” Jaynie said as we started our coaching session.
“What did you discover?” I asked.
“The directions said to draw a circle and divide it into the eight major areas of life: physical environment, career, family and friends, significant other and romance, fun and recreation, health, money and personal growth,” Jaynie said. “Then it said to place a dot in each section to rate my level of satisfaction on a scale from one to 10, with one being in the center of the circle. When I was done, it was easy to see that my overall satisfaction level is low.”
“Which areas would you like to focus on first?” I said.
“I rated the romance and significant other section a one,” Jaynie said. “Immediately after my husband passed away two years ago, I couldn’t even think about dating. Lately, however, I’ve been feeling lonely, but dating still feels uncomfortable.”
“I can see why you rated that a one. What about this?” I asked, pointing to another low point: fun and recreation.
“After Allen’s death, I participated in grief counseling and joined a support group. Now, I want to meet new people, but I’m not sure how,” Jaynie said.
“That’s definitely something we can focus on with life coaching,” I said. “What else did you discover by doing this exercise?”
“Do you see how small my wheel is?” Jaynie asked as she pointed to the wheel she drew after rating each area and connecting the dots.
“Sometimes I feel as though I live in black and white and the rest of the world is in color,” Jaynie said. “Do you remember the movie ‘Wizard of Oz’ and how in the beginning how everything was in black and white? After the house lands and Dorothy wakes up, everything is in color.
“Before Allen died, my life was in color. Ever since, my life feels drab and colorless,” she said.
“That’s a great metaphor,” I said. “It reminds me of those old paint-by-number kits years ago.”
“I used to love painting by number,” Jaynie said. “It was amazing to watch a black and white drawing form into a beautiful scene, simply by adding little bits of color.”
“It’s the same with life,” I said. “You can begin to consciously add color and create your own masterpiece.”
“That sounds wonderful,” Jaynie said. “What’s the next step?”
“What action steps will help you go from black and white to color in your life?” I asked.
Jaynie thought for a minute. “I’ll stop by a hobby store and get a paint-by-number kit,” she said. “Won’t that be fun?”
“What if you were to also journal about the two areas we talked about and show or tell what each one would look like in color?” I suggested.
“I’ll do it by our next session,” Jaynie said. “It sounds like a great way to get started.”
Coaching challenge: If any area(s) of your life feel like you are living in black and white, describe how it would look and feel to live these areas in color.
Once you have an idea of what you’d like it to look like, create one small step to add a touch of color into your life.
Keep “painting by number” until you’ve created your own masterpiece.
Sheri Fisher is an intuitive life coach living in Grand Junction. The situations and characters in her column are fictional to maintain client confidentiality.
For information and to complete your own Wheel of Life exercise (free), go to http://www.coachwithsheri.com.