Father who shot son described as being ‘Kind. Gentle. Giving’
Terry Lawrence says he has read the Bible weekly with Allen Grabe for 13 years. Attended several Christian men’s conferences with him. Enjoyed a meal at the same table in fellowship with him.
And he can’t believe that man is the same person suspected of shooting and killing his teenage son last week.
“The guy who pulled the trigger that night wasn’t Allen,” Lawrence said Tuesday, the day before prosecutors are expected to charge Grabe with murder in the slaying of 13-year-old Jacob Grabe.
The arrest affidavit for Grabe also is to be unsealed today by a judge, according to Mesa County District
Attorney Pete Hautzinger.
In an interview with The Daily Sentinel, Lawrence said he and others believe Grabe cracked mentally, perhaps due to financial issues with his window service business.
Whatever the case may be, Lawrence said Jaquette Grabe, Allen’s wife and Jacob’s mother, has a message for her husband, who is being held in the Mesa County Jail on $1 million bond.
“She loves him, she cares for him, she forgives him,” Lawrence said.
Grabe’s alleged actions Thursday night inside the family’s Pear Park home represent a complete break from the man Lawrence considers a close friend. In describing Grabe, the compliments flowed freely: “Hard-working. Mild-natured. Kind. Gentle. Giving. Loving.”
“This is totally, totally outside the nature of what we’ve known Allen to be or Allen to do,” Lawrence said.
Lawrence, a businessman himself, said he met Grabe at a ministry known as Full Gospel Businessman, an interdenominational Christian business organization that brought businessmen together once a month to share their faith over lunch or dinner. Both men served on the organization’s board of directors.
A year or so later, Lawrence launched a weekly men’s Bible study under the Kingdom Builders Network, an international ministry. Grabe joined in, Lawrence said, bringing Jacob to the early-morning meetings before taking him to school on several occasions.
“He was a good boy. He loved his father,” Lawrence said of Jacob.
Lawrence said the Grabe family regularly attended A House for His Name, a nondenominational church on Kannah Creek Road in Whitewater.
A week or two before the shooting, Lawrence said Grabe told him he was grappling with some financial challenges with his business, Triple A Window Service, but did not go into any detail.
“For a man to do something like this shows he had to have had a break, a total break mentally that created another reality,” Lawrence said, adding he hopes the judicial system allows Grabe to obtain the mental-health evaluation Lawrence believes he needs.
As for Jaquette Grabe, Lawrence said he spoke with her Sunday and said she is “relatively OK.” He said she and the family are receiving a lot of encouragement and support from friends, law enforcement and the community and are grateful for it.